I am sure you have heard the old adage that looking for a job is like online dating. And as a 23 year veteran of the sales recruiting industry as well as a bachelor for the past 6 years, I am an expert on these two converging adventures.
So if you are looking for a new career opportunity, or someone to keep your feet warm at night or both then you will want to follow what is ostensibly my sex and money advice series.
Here beginneth the lesson:
Step 1: Stop being so damn open!
Looking for a job is like looking for a partner it is pure and simple a numbers game. One of my old school fav’s Tom Hopkins (I guess I am showing my age as you probably have no idea whom I am talking about. See
Step 2: Never Show Your Age) liked to say that it takes 25 “no’s” to get a yes so thank the 24 “no’s” because they are getting you faster to your “yes”. For most people you will kiss a lot more frogs than 25 before finding your prince/princess of a person or job.
However you can significantly cut down that number by starting with a game plan. If you don’t know what you are looking for in either situation then how do you expect yourself to find it?
Most online dating sites if not all will ask you what height, body type, age, education, and personality etc. that you want. I have found in my own personal life that being open to possibilities is a sure fire way not to find them.
According to Forbes online magazine there were over 4 million jobs in 2013 that went unfilled and 41 million plus people that have tried online dating sites (statisticbrain.com/
Sure, being open to relocation for a person, or an opportunity gives you more of both to choose from. But just like going into a candy store with a hundred dollars you are going to get sick to your stomach. There are more than enough people and jobs in your own zip code to add that caveat to your profile.
Most people just don’t know what they want, so they keep widening their nets. That was the pre-cyber way of doing things.
When a candidate says to me that they are open to anything, or moving anywhere, it scares me off and reeks of the same desperation of an older woman on a date with me trying to act like a 25 year old.
Depending on your age, living situation, children, etc. what are you really willing to give up for another person or a new job?
Nine out of ten people end up with the same job they hated and dating the same person they divorced.
Be honest with yourself and if you really only like gingers don’t say you are open to blonds or brunettes or if you live on the West side of Los Angeles that you would really date someone from “The Valley”. All this will eventually do is make you bitter. Or to quote Bob Newhart: “Just stop it”!
Same goes when looking for a job
Check out my LinkedIn or OKCupid profile. I am pretty hot and have just the job you want.